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This is about fathers' rights law, and protecting the best interests of your children. It provides information, news and comments on laws, cases and strategies for life as a single father and winning your custody, access or child support case.

Archive for June, 2007

The Dangerous Book for Boys

Thursday, June 28th, 2007

Fathers ask me how they can prepare for their custody cases. I always suggest they find ways to participate in their children’s activities. Volunteer as a soccer coach. Go to the PTA meetings.

It is tough if you are also the breadwinner for your family and working hard. But if you don’t, as sure as God made little green apples, your wife’s attorney will point at you and say, “You didn’t attend even one of little Timmy’s soccer games, did you?”

Conn and Hal Iggulden have made it fun, however, by writing a wonderful book calledThe Dangerous Book for Boys. It will take you back to your childhood. My boys and I are working on the first activity, called Essential Gear. They are getting cigar boxes to keep their gear in which includes a Swiss Army Knife, compass, matches, marble, needle and thread, fish hook, matches and other items a dangerous boy might need.

Thanks to Law Dawg Blog

Monday, June 18th, 2007

Thanks to the Librarians at Southern Illinois University for making my book, Fathers’ Rights, This Week’s Featured Book on Law Dawg Blog.

Father’s Day Advice to Our Children

Thursday, June 14th, 2007

For Father’s Day, although I am hoping for a new Apple iPhone, I would be satisfied with a good book or two. For the fathers in your life, you can give them my book, Fathers’ Rights, now in second edition online and at fine books stores everywhere. As for me, I would like to read the Four Day Workweek or Tim Russert’s book, Wisdom of our Fathers, in paperback just in time for Father’s Day.

I know that Mr. Russert’s book consists of letters from children about the wisdom that their fathers imparted to them. He includes a blank page at the beginning for children to write their own letter to their fathers.

That got me to thinking about the other side of that coin. There are many things I would like to tell my children. Some of the wisdom I would like them to have is sublime and some is silly. I would like to protect them from life’s harms. I would like to help them avoid the mistakes I made. But I won’t be around forever to advise them. I need to write them some letters.

If you are a father, and have words of advice for your children, post them here in the comments section for Father’s Day. If we get enough, who knows, maybe a publisher will be interested in a book.

Knowing What You Want

Wednesday, June 13th, 2007

At the Initial Conference today, the judge ordered same day mediation for my client and his spouse. In this case, the lawyers were not invited. So my client asked me what he should do in mediation.

I told him that he already knew what he wanted and all he had to do was tell the mediator. I think the most important preparation is to know what you want. That’s why I try to discuss and put in writing the client’s objectives as early in the case as possible.

I took him through the likely agenda, which in a divorce case is basically:

  • Child Custody and Access
  • Child Support
  • Alimony
  • Property Division
  • Attorney Fees

So what are the objectives you have for your case? If you post them in comments I will try to tell you if they are reasonable or need some more work.

Move Away Cases

Tuesday, June 5th, 2007

I represent a non-custodial father with a three year old son. He has visitation every other weekend. The mother wants to move away and she will be six hours driving time from the father. What can he do?

First, we tried to talk to the mother to see if something could be worked out with her. We sent letters and called. She did not respond.

Now we are forced to file a petition to modify custody and change it to Dad. How will the court decide?

Relocation cases are basically custody cases. The court has already decided custody once. Now it has to decide again. The standard is what is in the best interests of the child. So the court will look at the custody issues to decide if the child is better off here with the father or away from here with the mother.

Birkhead Sues Opri

Saturday, June 2nd, 2007

TMZ.Com reports that Larry Birkhead filed a lawsuit Friday against his former attorney, Debra Opri, who represented him in the custody case over his daughter with Anna Nicole Smith.

Birkhead claims that Opri promised to represent him for free for the publicity. Then she pocketed money he was supposed to get from his appearances of television. Finally he fired her when she wouldn’t turn over the money and then she sent him a bill for legal services saying he owed her more than $62o,ooo.

The lawsuit claims fraud, conversion and malpractice.

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