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This is about fathers' rights law, and protecting the best interests of your children. It provides information, news and comments on laws, cases and strategies for life as a single father and winning your custody, access or child support case.

Archive for March, 2010

Iron Man and Hanes Giveaway

Friday, March 26th, 2010

The Father Life, an e-magazine for dads, is giving away Iron Man books and a $100 Hanes gift certificate on April 1, 2010.  Enter here.

Child Support Trust

Thursday, March 25th, 2010

In 2004, Travis Deon Henry had reason to be happy, having just signed a 25 million dollar contract with the NFL’s Denver Broncos.  He would soon need the money because Jameshia L. Beacham of Georgia filed a paternity suit against him.

And that’s not all.  Henry had eight other children in multiple states and child support orders for almost all of them.  Although Henry made almost $50,000 a month, he was behind on his temporary child support payments to Beacham when the matter came on for trial.  So the Judge ordered him to place $250,000 in trust to secure the payments.  The trust would be returned to Henry after his child support obligation was satisfied.

Henry appealed the legality of the trust fund requirement but the appeals court found that the trial court had the authority to fashion such a remedy in these circumstances.    Henry v. Beacham, A09A1129 (2009).

Father Faces Jail for Taking Child to Church

Tuesday, March 9th, 2010

When her estranged husband Joseph Reyes had their 3-year-old daughter baptized in the Catholic Church without telling her, Rebecca Shapiro of Chicago filed for temporary restraining order.  She claimed that this could result in harm to the child.

A family law judge issued the order prohibiting Reyes from “exposing his daughter to any other religion other than the Jewish religion during his visitation” for 30 days.  Reyes defied the court order and took his daughter to a Chicago church with news cameras rolling.  Shapiro asked the court to find him in contempt and sentence him to jail for up to six months.

Father’s rights lawyers will be watching this case because the father contends that a court shouldn’t be deciding a child’s religious practices.

Problems

Friday, March 5th, 2010

“I hate math,” said Lee to his dad as he brushed his teeth in the morning.

“Why?” I asked.

“It’s nothing but problems, problems and more problems.”

“Son,” said his dad.  “Thank God that every day you get up and have problems to solve.  Because you know when there are no more problems to solve?”

“No, when?” he said.

“When you’re dead.  You were put on Earth to solve problems.  Life is full of problems.  They are there to challenge you and make you grow.  Every day you have problems it means you are alive.  So let’s go eat breakfast and start solving  problems.”

Revenge

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

It is fairly normal to have fantasies of revenge and vindication in a divorce.  But those are not necessarily helpful emotions for finding your way through the legal systems and protecting your assets.  They can lead you to make wrong decisions when you should have a cool head or paralysis if you let them morph into despair and dejection.

You may be bitter about the amount of alimony and child support you have to pay.  Many ex-husband’s complain that their ex’s are living better than them financially.  That is not to say that single mothers have it any better.

Anger and hurt are part of the grieving process in a divorce according to many therapists.  These emotions should not be denied.  But it is also common to give them more significance than they deserve.  One way to cope is to find a meaning or purpose in your life that is bigger than your divorce problems.

Time does eventually heal the wounds and the divorce recedes into the past as your new life becomes larger and more satisfying than the old.  But ex-spouses still talk about their divorces with a hint of vindication or gloat over the misfortunes of their ex’s.

The way to know when you are over it is when you no longer want revenge.  That’s when you look at your life and you are satisfied.  The best revenge is living well.

 
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