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This is about fathers' rights law, and protecting the best interests of your children. It provides information, news and comments on laws, cases and strategies for life as a single father and winning your custody, access or child support case.

Posts Tagged ‘Child Custody Battles’

How to Lose Your Child Custody Battle

Friday, September 25th, 2015

Anthony Zappin, a 30 year old patent lawyer, who graduated from law school in 2010, married Claire Comfort, who is also a patent lawyer. They had one child together. They filed for divorce in New York in 2013. The custody trial is scheduled for November. Zappin, representing himself, is showing us things NOT to do in a child custody battle:

  • Insult the judges. Zappin told one judge that she was lying. He wrote a note to another that said “You’re pathetic!”
  • Alienate the child’s attorney. Refuse to pay half her fees as ordered. Create a web site in her name. Call her “a very sick and greedy woman.”
  • Alienate the child evaluation expert. Zappin filed a complaint with the state against the psychiatrist the child’s attorney hired to evaluate the child.
  • Sue in other courts during the divorce. Zappin sued his wife in New York County Family Court; sued his wife, her family and her lawyers in federal district courts in the Southern District of New York and the District of Columbia; and brought proceedings against judges in his case.

Justice Cooper has ordered Zappin to pay $10,000 for his actions in the case. Zappin said he intends to appeal.

Parents Spend Two Million Dollars Fighting Over Custody

Monday, April 27th, 2015

“How much will my custody case cost?” is a question I hear over and over.  I don’t know is the answer.  If things go well, if both parents and attorneys are reasonable, and you are lucky, the cost may be below my initial retainer of $5,000 and you will get a refund. If you get into litigation, your fees could be two or three times that, or even more.  The sky really is the limit.

Witness the Toronto case known as M. and F.  The mother alleged that the father was not entited to overnight visits with their six year old son because he had been violent toward her.  That made him, according to the mother, unsafe to be alone with the child. The mother owns a successful insurance brokerage.  The father is a lawyer.

The trial lasted 34 days. Then the case went to the Ontario Court of Appeal.  In the end, the father won.  The court ordered the mother to pay $540,000 of the father’s legal fees.  The total amount of legal fees spent by the two parents was over two million dollars.

Co-Parenting Improves After Divorce

Monday, August 20th, 2012

University of Missouri Professor Marilyn Coleman and Dr. Mindy Markham interviewed 20 women who shared physical custody of children with ex-partners.  Half of the women reported amicable relationships with their ex’s.  The other half reported combative relationships in the beginning that improved over time.

“To me, it’s almost as if the parents in the bad-to-better relationships matured,” Coleman said. “Mostly, it’s because the parents began focusing on their children. The parents saw how upset their arguments made their kids, so they decided to put their differences aside and focus on what was best for the children.”

“The goal for divorced parents should be to maintain the best co-parenting relationships possible by moving past prior relationship issues and focusing on children’s well-being,” Coleman said.

Although the sample was small, the result reflects my own experience as a divorce lawyer.  Once the stress and fighting between spouses is resolved by agreement or trial, the parties can then calm down and focus on their children.

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